29/09/2006

• Not a good week

  1.  Sunday, I tried to a help one of my newer friends with something that was bothering him.  My intent was only to challenge him and encourage him.  (I do recall that he once wrote that he likes to challenge people and to be challenged.)  With anyone, I challenge the person less than I encourage and affirm him/her so that (s)he won't be overwhelmed by the challenging.  Anway, my effort to help him had the opposite effect.  Somehow I annoyed him and have not a clue how I did it.  Reviewing the conversation several times, I couldn't discern any indication of his becoming or being annoyed.  I got annoyed and pissed off Tuesday when we tried to talk things out and clear the air because it immediately devolved from a constructive conversation on the true issue into divisive debate on a tangent based on the pseudo-word "ancy".   Hence (in addition to my needing sleep and his needing to do other stuff), I ended that conversation because both sides were being hardheaded.  I am no longer annoyed or po'd at all but rather confused and a little sad as to how I originally annoyed him.  I wish I knew so that I can change and thus won't offend or annoy people unintentionally.  I am taking a week of silence in hopes that in the meantime, both he and I individually reflect on the conversation; his finding where he went wrong; my finding where I went wrong (albeit quite unawares and unintentionally); and how I can further change into a better person.  Even when I was annoyed and pissed off, I never abandoned my positive opinion and high regard of him.  Overall, the friend I tried to help is definitely a good person and has a wisdom that is greater than most of his peers.  

  2.  Thursday was the first session of the Dail (lower house) in the Oireachtas (Irish Parliament) after Summer recess.  I was dismayed to see that the session was fiery rather than civil and amicable.  There were Divisions (vote of the house when it's not a clear majority on the question) one right after the other.  One TD (member of Oireachtas), after clearly making his point in the time allowed, wouldn't yield the floor and kept shouting his point.  After putting up with the TD's shit for 5 or 10 minutes, Ceann Comharile (Speaker of the House) went on with business and asked the TD to leave the House.  The TD wouldn't leave; so, CC finally suspended him from the House. 

  3.  Another friendly acquaintance is coincidentally going through the same thing as I am in #1.  Deja vu.

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